#6 Boys! Understand the Girls.

 Today, when I was sauntering about my University, dozens of lovely girls with their boyfriends passed by me, reminding me of the delightful days I spent with my girlfriends. Girls have always made my journey of life wonderful. I’ve tried my best to not to propose every girl whom I meet, but I always failed to resist the girls to make me fall in them. It is the smile, honeyed voice and beautiful heart of girls who propels me to run for them.

I still remember I was in sixth grade when I fell in love with a senior girl who was in seventh grade. Few months later, she became my girlfriend and I became a love guru. We broke up after few months. I cried for several days. I was hurt, but life has to go on. After that incident make-up break-up became a part of my love life. But, whenever I think about the time I spent with her, I laugh out loudly while holding my stomach. It is because her name starts with the alphabet ‘N’ and ends up at ‘L’ and my name, Nakul, has a similar story of alphabet ‘N’ and ‘L’. Now, I could see my friends standing on the school canteen and singing those alphabets in a union: ‘NL… NL… NL…’ and if you read these words again and over again, you will find the right meaning which simply says: ‘Anal… Anal… Anal…’  

Controlling hormones are compulsive. The sweet memories of love accompanied a man throughout his life; it’s unforgettable. Whenever he looks back in his past, he finds himself loving and caressing his beautiful partner. This blog is for my friends who always say me, ‘Nakul Bhai setting karaa de yar.’ I hope the points I’m telling you about girls will help you to understand them better:

1.      If a girl talks normally with everyone and behaves like a psycho on seeing you then she is in love with you.

2.      A woman is having four times shyness than a man and that is the reason why boys have to propose the girls first.

3.      If she starts hating and ignoring you then there is no use to run for her. She doesn’t actually need you. Change the girl.

4.      A woman, by nature, is liar, courageous, deceitful, foolish, greedy, impious, and cruel. These are the innate attributes of a woman — Chanakya

5.      Talk with her and then ignore her is the key to make a beautiful girl think about you. “Beautiful girls behave most when you ignore them” — 2 states by Chetan Bhagat.

6.      She is in love with herself first and then with her brother and at last with her husband or family.

7.      More than fifty percent of her mobile space is stuffed with selfies.

8.      Mirror and clothes is her best friend.

9.      Women jealous of women. If you find a group of girls living together happily then you are not living on earth.

10.  If she often smiles at you without any reason then she is interested in you. Interested in you does not mean love in you. :D 

11.  She needs a hero, not a rowdy. She needs a person who is a good listener, not a chatter-box. She needs an entertainer, not a joker.

12.  She loves talking about herself. She loves buttering from the man she is in love with.

13.  Don’t tease her or mess up with her. She is having six times more courage than a man.

14.  She knows how to take money out from your pocket. Do not hide anything from her.

15.  She also knows how to help you in your hard times. Do not tell her. Love her.

16.  Every girl find something cute in you if you are rich or have a unique quality, but no girl can continue if you are not able to spend even few minutes with her.

17.  Women are gullible. She can easily come in the talks of others. Hide her from your friends and people. The world is nasty and envies your each step.

18.  A hug and a love kiss is what all she needs to free herself from all the insecurities.

19.  She does not like her man talking with other girls.

20.  A respectful smile is all you need is to impress a good image in her mind and heart.

Impress her like this:

1.      Before approaching her, fall in love with her. Your hormones will help your brain to deliver love dialogues to her. See her as a divine beauty not a toy.

2.      Hold on. Do not behave like a child crying for chocolates. Give her time to investigate about you. Remember, woman interested in you knows everything about you, even if she has never asked it from anyone. Ears of walls and girls are always open.  

3.      A man has six seconds for his first impression. Good clothes and a curvy smile can do 60% of the work. 

4.      70% of girls don’t like man with beard and moustache. Light beard and moustache is good to impress her.

5.      She loves eating food. To reach her heart, the easiest way is to go by her stomach.

6.      Don’t have a lot of money to offer her pizzas and rolls? Offer her chocolate or fruit shakes. I’ve done this many times and most of the girls felt her appetite full.

7.      Talk about her field of interest and shut up till she stops. Everyone loves to talk about themselves.

8.      Render compliments; hit her lightly with your elbows while walking and then pass a lovely smile.

9.      Do not make her afraid by saying you will attempt suicide if she will not come in your life.

10.  Make her laugh. ‘Simple hai! Hasi to Phasi Bhai.’

Now, I have told you what I’ve experienced and learnt in the company of girls. But like every time, I want to remind you that we do not have thousands years to live. Life is here today and it is gone today. Do not take the magical words to your graves. 

#5 Become Better

I want to share a story about a man and a horse I came across while reading Teachings of Buddha by Thich Nhat Hanh. A man was riding a horse and it appeared that he was going for some important work. On his way, another man, standing alongside the road asked him, ‘Where are you going?’ The first man replied, ‘Don’t know! Ask the horse.’ This is also our story. We are too often busy in our busy life that we don’t have time to think about our self. It looks that we are not running the day, but the day is running us; we are not living but surviving it. Our life has become like a leaf floating in water which is moving along with the thrust of wind. I courteously want to ask you to ponder, ‘Do we not deserve to spend few hours to improve our self?  

I believe that the only purpose of our life is to serve the people selflessly. As truthful towards my responsibility to help others, I want to share few points that will help you to live a better life.

·         Comparison: Not only expectations are the cause of all disappointments but comparison also leads to displeasures. Life is not about to compare yourself with others, but it is to make yourself better than yesterday. When you start comparing yourself with the person who is stronger than you then unsurprisingly you’ve to confront distresses in your life. And if you compare yourself with the weaker being then the day is not far when your pride knocks you down on your face. Accept everyone is different and born with different qualities. Believe in yourself and get up every day to improve yourself.

·         Have Faith: I often see many students are filled with fear of uncertain future. I’ve read somewhere, people do not know about their present and they are talking about future. Future is an illusion. Present alone is the truth. I know it’s difficult to avoid the fear of future. Sometimes, I also get trapped by these illusionary fears but if you have faith on God you will easily tackle it. Faith is like living being, the more you feed it the stronger it will become. I read the text of Holy Bible, Holy Quran and Shri Guru Granth Sahib again and over again to build my faith. God has plan for you to make you not to break you, to give you hope and a good life.

·         Become Strict: The more you strict on yourself the better your life will be. Build a new good habit. According to studies, it takes sixty-six days to make a new habit your daily ritual. In past few years, I made several good habits — reading book, keeping journal, waking up early, exercising— that is helping me to avoid procrastination. Now, I’m working on writing diary every day before going to bed. It’s little bit difficult to make a new habit, but remember what Robert Puller said, ‘Good habits, once established are just as hard to break as are bad habits.’

·         Do Something Extra: The real development of our body and mind is when we stretch our self beyond our limitations. Every skill is only mastered by focusing it day in day out. Set a goal of doing the things which you feel hard. Record your goal on a paper and fix a time limit to complete it. Like, I read six books a month, but this month my target is to read ten books. By spending few minutes extra on the work you love, you can get more out of your life. Remember, you can never give your best in the things you don’t love. It is better to leave and go in a search of the things you love.

·         Bless Everyone: Bless everyone whom you meet. While shaking hands or sitting and walking alone think well about others. Caress the trees and plants on your way and thank them for rendering oxygen for our survival. Make someone laugh or do one act of kindness. Make a stranger your friend or call an old friend to tell you still remember the good moments you had shared with him. When you start improving yourself, you will begin to unfold the enormous powers lying inside you. The more pure is your energy the more you have influence on others, the more you have friends and the stronger your speech will become. Serve people and let see God serving you.

“Your God is around you. Serve everyone. Don’t know in what form you meet Him” — Nakul Grover

#4 Porn And Sex....

Porn and Sex

‘Nakul, the quality of laptop is defined by the quantity of porn, not by its F-processor or F-Ram or F-Graphics,’ said one of my friends while watching porn. I usually love to write fiction and self-help, but the word porn drew me towards it like it has drawn several boys of the universe.  What is sex? It is an intercourse of two bodies and when it is mingled with love it becomes a way to meet God. It’s a kaam to meet Rama. But, if sex is associated with lust, it results in harassment of women and if someone records it, it becomes pornography. A lot of wicked movies has made intentionally and has only showed how to disrespect a woman in different postures.   

‘Sex is a poison and practicing it is a sin,’ is what many Indians speaking, but is it what they are thinking? I would glad to write the words of Khushwant Singh, a well-known Indian writer, which reflects the real Indians, ‘We Indians are very interested in sex, we have curiosity and the drive and we pretend to be prudish and conservative.’ When Lord Krishna manifests himself in 1608 forms- one for each Gopi- and proceeds to make love with them, then is his Karma making him impure? No. Sex in the pure and trustful form is the way to unite with God because the greatest pleasure in the world comes while doing sex only. It is an experience likely one gets in a deep meditation. Some experts have said the risk of getting AIDS is almost negligible if the sex is performed with love. ‘Give sex a sacred status in your life. At the time of coitus, we are close to God,’ said Acharya Rajneesh. But, what about the sex we have seen in immoral movies?   

What I’m listening every day is that Indian government has done a blunder after banning porn in the country and now, the day is not far when the rape cases will reach its zenith. However, the ban is uplifted few hours ago because of the threat of increasing rape cases. But, a question knocking me again and over again, is there a woman stands, in the mind while masturbating? When I was in grade ninth I came to know what blue film is, but today, I have seen small children in between the age group of 10-14 giggling and wagging tongue in between the lips while watching it. The little children whom I had seen playing cricket and football in underwear, now can easily be seen scratching the same small pants while ogling the little girls ‘What we shall sow, we shall harvest,’ reads holy Bible and Shri Guru Granth Sahib. What seeds we put in our self will come out in future as our character.

Uplifting the ban from porn can never control the rape cases in India. Porn is only teaching on what body part a man should hit to harass her or how a teen boy should spend hours to make his penis ready for few minutes of hand exercise. I’ve never come across any porn which has showed us how to love a woman or how to make a pure sex. The only way to reduce the crime rates is to give education. Now, if you argue that a lot of educated people are doing rapes and I’m speaking rubbish then I respectfully want to tell you that those people are known as padhe-likhe anpadh (Well educated illiterate people). Education does not mean to get good grades in class and get placed in top companies, but education means how we behave, what we talk and how much respect we give to others.